A very important question that I would like to ask myself more is...
"What actions do I want from other people in order to meet my need for love?"
In an intimate relationship it can be so simple as both people have different requests for love, and how they like to get that need met. And they might not realize that the reason the other persones need for love not getting met is because they have a different request for it.
So today I'm going to try to find out 3 things that I can ask someone to do, real specific, that will meet my need for love. So when someone comes up to me ans asks the most wonderful question of all "What can I do to make your life more wonderful, and specifically, what can I do to meet your need for love?" I will have an answer.
1. I would like to have a kiss in the morning when I wake up beside my partner, BUT ONLY if she wants to do it wil the joy of a little child feeding a hungry duck.
2. I would like to hear if there are any unmet needs on behalf of my partner in relation to me, which is a challenge or even scary for her to tell me about.
3. I would like to find a letter in my jacket pocket with a beautiful photo of nature or a poem that I can enjoy reading while leaving the house.
4. I would like to sit with my partner for at least 15 minutes every day and share what each of us feels gratefull for in our day, in our lives and in our relationship.
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aaaaw :) that's sweet! I once heard of a man who told his wife something like: "waking up beside you makes me so happy. this is going to be a great life"
I wish to meet someone who will tell me that.
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